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“I don’t understand what I am doing… I do not do what I want—instead, I do what I hate.”


Do you ever feel like this?  You know what is right, and what you SHOULD be doing, but the fact is you make choices that are not helpful.  They could be a waste of time, or in some cases, they can be downright destructive. Maybe it’s drinking or doing drugs, maybe it’s playing video games until 4 am, maybe it’s just eating unhealthy food or not exercising like you know you should.


So how do we alter these destructive, unhelpful or unhealthy patterns?  The problem quite often is that we have trained our brains to go down certain pathways. When something happens that makes us upset, angry, uncomfortable, sad, or any other emotion, we respond in certain ways to numb the pain. But the tragic thing is these very choices end up causing even more pain down the road.  


We need to create new neurological pathways to make better choices and avoid things that are going to be destructive and cause further problems.  But no man is an island. You need help to create these new pathways. This is a big job that takes a team effort.


My job as a mental health therapist is to partner with you in this change… to help you find new pathways and learn to follow them, until they become so natural to you, you don’t even think about it.  It won’t be easy, but I’m willing to partner with you in this! Just give me a call, and we’ll start the journey together.

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